7 May 2025

Collaborative Divorce: The Advantages of a Collaborative Approach

By Marcella Verwoerd

In this blog, we discuss what this method entails, what its advantages are and why it can be a good choice for couples going through a divorce.

A divorce is often one of the most difficult and emotional experiences in a person’s life. Especially in situations where significant interests are at stake, a divorce can lead to stress, conflict and legal complications. It is therefore important to reach agreements that feel right for both parties, while feeling supported by a lawyer who is there to represent your best interests. Fortunately, there is a way of getting divorced that is gaining more and more attention: collaborative divorce.

What is collaborative divorce?

In a collaborative divorce, both partners choose to separate in a constructive and respectful manner. This happens with the help of specialised professionals, such as lawyers, a coach and often a financial advisor. Without the intervention of a judge, you enter into a dialogue with this team of professionals and seek a solution that is legally and financially feasible and offers both parties prospects for the future.

The advantages of a collaborative divorce

There are several advantages to a collaborative divorce. The main ones are outlined below.

  1. Avoiding conflict: One of the biggest advantages of a collaborative divorce is that it reduces the likelihood of conflict, both during the divorce and in the future. Both parties have the same intention to part ways on amicable terms.
  2. Each party has their own lawyer: Whereas in mediation you are assisted by an independent lawyer-mediator, in a collaborative divorce each party has a lawyer on their side. This means that both parties are informed and guided in a professional manner and that their interests – both legal and otherwise – are safeguarded. Precisely because both parties are supported by their own lawyer, everyone feels empowered in the negotiations and an equal situation is created in which it is also possible to make good agreements.
  3. Personal attention: A collaborative divorce also offers room for personal attention. A coach is called in to support the parties and guide them where necessary. The focus here is on the emotional side of the divorce. The coach can also talk to the children. During the meetings, the coach monitors the process and will also intervene if one of the parties is not participating constructively in the consultation.
  4. Flexibility: The process is more flexible than a court case. The parties can decide for themselves how they want to structure their agreements, which leads to solutions that are better suited to each unique situation.
  5. Future-oriented solutions: Collaborative divorce focuses not only on ending the marriage, but also on creating a sustainable basis for the future, especially when children are involved. This can help promote a positive co-parenting situation and also prevent future legal proceedings.

Conclusion

A collaborative divorce offers a valuable alternative to traditional divorce proceedings and mediation. It emphasises cooperation, respect and a future-oriented approach, which is not only beneficial for the partners themselves, but also for their children. If you are considering divorce, it may be worth exploring the possibilities of a collaborative divorce. It can help you get through this difficult period in a less painful and more constructive way, with an eye to the future.

More information

If you have any further questions or would like to make an appointment, please feel free to contact us.

Marcella Verwoerd

Marcella Verwoerd

Lawyer

‘Offering support in difficult times with empathy and professionalism’

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