The benefits of divorce mediation

30 December 2024

The benefits of divorce mediation

By Eva Jongkoen

Divorce can be one of the most stressful events in a person’s life. It is a process that is not only emotionally taxing, but can also be complex in terms of legal settlement. In this context, mediation can offer a valuable alternative to engaging a lawyer. In this blog, you can read about some of the benefits of divorce mediation.

Saving on costs

Mediation is often significantly cheaper than traditional divorce proceedings through a lawyer. Because mediators help facilitate talks between the couple to reach an agreement, there are fewer legal costs and there is no need for expensive court proceedings.

Saving time

It can take months or even years to go through a divorce process through the courts. Mediation can significantly speed up this process as it aims to reach a quick and mutually acceptable solution, often within a few sessions.

Exercising control over the outcome

Unlike a court decision, where control is relinquished, mediation allows both spouses to actively participate in shaping the agreement and the divorce settlement. This can lead to more satisfactory and sustainable agreements.

Privacy

Mediation is a confidential process. Unlike public court hearings, the details of the divorce remain private, which is a reassuring benefit for many people.

Emotional support

Mediators are trained to provide a neutral and supportive environment. They can help guide the emotional aspects of a divorce, which can lead to a less hostile and more respectful divorce process.

Benefits for children

If children are involved, mediation can help put their welfare first. Rather than leaving it to the courts, parents can work together to draw up a parenting plan that is best for their children.

Flexibility

Mediation offers flexibility that court proceedings cannot offer. The spouses can schedule meetings at times that are most convenient for them and adapt the agreement to their specific needs.

Conclusion

While mediation is not the best option in all cases, it offers clear benefits that are worth considering in a divorce. It is a path that can lead to a more peaceful, personal and satisfactory solution for all concerned.

More information

Some of our family law lawyers are mediators as well as lawyers. You can contact us for a mediation process where the lawyer-mediator can also take care of the legal settlement of the divorce at court.

Do you have questions about mediation and whether it is a suitable procedure for your divorce? Please do not hesitate to contact us.

Eva Jongkoen

Lawyer and mediator

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